Slow, Lingering Touch

By Margaret Shrum

When is the last time you planned a night with your husband, wife or lover where the focus was on exploring sensory touch together? Not just the regular routine, but taking turns communicating and exploring each others bodies literally from head to toe. I invite you to get intimate with your beloved and take your pleasure up a notch by following or exploring my suggestions for slow, lingering touch together:

1. Begin by creating a sensual environment in your bedroom so that it feels like a cozy, sacred space that won’t be interrupted or distracted by computers, cell phones, noise or other people.

2. Set the mood with music, dim lighting, candles, luxurious high thread count sheets and a comfortable temperature.

3. Undress each other slowly and deliberately, honoring each others bodies and looking into each others eyes. Feel free to hug or kiss before beginning your exploration.

4. Decide who will go first, one lover will be the explorer and the other will get to receive touch for as long as you like. You may want to set up a time frame of 15-20 mins. and then switch roles. Both of you will be laying down on the bed, the receiver on his/ her back while the giver will most likely be on their side or sitting next to them.

5. The explorer (giver) can begin by stroking their lovers hair gently and enjoying the soft texture between their fingertips. This is a simple and pleasurable experience for most people and partners can begin by describing how it feels, it they like it or not and take note of the level of enjoyment their partner is feeling.

6. Next move to explore the earlobes, which can be quite sensitive and relaxing to some people. Good idea to check in and see how they are feeling and if they want you to continue or explore a different area of the body. Feel free to use your hands, fingers or even a feather.

7. Slowly explore the neck, the temples, the cheeks, the lips and move down to the clavicle, the chest, the armpits, the shoulders, elbows, wrists, palms…You get the idea, the objective is to have fun and discover new arousal zones that can be focused on for future love making sessions.

8. Once the time set is over, change roles and repeat the process. You may find areas that your partner really enjoys and others that are just neutral and some that are downright uncomfortable. But it’s all good and will bring you closer together and may become a regular ritual that you can continue exploring over time.

9. When the time is up, you can give each other feedback on the favorite erogenous zones that were explored and if you like continue to focus on those spots and enjoy each other further!

10. Schedule your next sensory touch date.