Create Pleasurable Adventures

By Margaret Shrum

Last week, a new lover was celebrating his birthday and I couldn’t figure out what to buy him!  He’s the kind of man who doesn’t need any material items and tends to be a bit of a workaholic, so after sharing my dilemma with a couple of close friends, we came up with the perfect gift! The gift of time together; an unforgettable night of fun filled surprises, romance and full attention on him.

I kept it all a secret until just hours before our date, although I did give him a few instructions so that he would be prepared for whatever the night would bring. Fortunately, he was open to my little adventure and found it all very exciting.  Our night began with him meeting me at a hotel room in a trendy NYC neighborhood. I arrived first to set up the room and create a more intimate atmosphere, taking us out of our normal environment. When he arrived I was dressed like a goddess in a sexy red strapless cocktail dress & gold heels with a nice bottle of chilled champagne ready for us to make a Birthday toast. Being in a hotel room, made us both feel like we were on vacation and put us in a festive mood.

Next, we walked to romantic restaurant for dinner where we played a sexy Q & A game over our meal, which whet our appetites for the rest of our evening. Finally we headed back to our room and I gave him a sensual dance with a playlist I had created, while feeding him chocolate covered strawberries! He loved the gift of spending romantic time together and especially loved the creativity and adventure of it all.  The preparation and planning of all the delicious details was almost as exciting as the night itself, mostly because I anticipated how much fun we would both have enjoying it all!

Being spontaneous and doing things differently is one of the easiest ways you can shake up your routine and arouse your senses. This can be as simple as taking a different path to work, trying a new restaurant or even dressing differently. Begin by creating a list of things that you desire to try out and choose “to do” at least one new thing every day. Not only will this give you a new sense of adventure, it may open you up to discovering more about yourself and expand your confidence.

This is also something you can share and invite your friends or partner to consider doing together. It will certainly spice up a relationship and bring a fun and playful energy that may lead to more arousal and pleasure for all involved. Stepping out of your routine and comfort zone can be fun and open you up to creating memorable experiences. Every day can be an opportunity to play and invite others to join you in your adventure, a  much needed escape from the mundane. How can you create more pleasurable adventures in your life?