Sexy Date Nights

By Margaret Shrum

We all have busy lives whether we have a corporate job, run our own business, run the household and care for loved ones or a combination of responsibilities. Finding time to have a high quality, relaxed and sexy time with your lover, husband or even new partner, can often seem more stressful than pleasurable. Plan for your pleasure; by scheduling a sexy date night for yourself and your partner.

Begin by planning a night where you can both take your time to enjoy each other and create a sensual atmosphere as well as taking time to pamper yourself, be well rested and dressed up for your date. Literally, you should plan a minimum of 3 hours and agree to be on time, be in a good state of mind and not cancel on each other. Weekly pleasure dates can give you something to look forward to and can open up the vulnerability and connection you feel with your partner. Focus on courting each other, make an effort to look attractive, be charming and focused on engaging each other throughout your date.

Preparation before your date can set the tone and get you in the mood for your date night together. Take some time to select a “dress to impress” outfit for yourself. Wear something that flatters your body and makes you feel sexy and confident.

Buy yourself new lingerie, maybe something in lace, like this gorgeous La Perla bra or in a striking color like this fuchsia & red set by Agent Provocateur.

Consider wearing thigh highs, like these sexy Wolford Fatal seamless 80 Stay ups, or a garter belt and sheer stockings under your dress, there is something about wearing beautiful lingerie and stockings that adds to the erotic experience as a sensual woman.

Ask your partner to dress up for you and for him to wear underwear that is sexy for you, maybe a pair of Paul Smith black boxer briefs or whatever he feels confident in.

Select a sensual atmosphere, choose a romantic restaurant and order champagne, feed each other oysters and have a decadent dessert. Be sure to eat and drink on the light side, so that you have energy to enjoy intimacy when you get home. Another fun date idea is to meet up at a dark lounge with a sexy vibe where you can make out or go dancing to live music and flirt as you get down together.

Be creative and stretch out of your routine and comfort zone. Shaking things up keeps the relationship exciting. Take turns coming up with new places to go and new experiences to try.  The idea behind the sexy date night is to bring you both together and explore what turns you both on. But most important is to have fun, spend quality time together, and have a sense of humor and curiosity about being sensual together. I invite you to enjoy “dating” the partner in your life or if you are single, have fun dating and suggesting “sexy dates” to the new potential partners.