By ALI CUDBY
“WHY would you write about that?”
That’s a message I got in response to my last She Buzz column. The one where I shared a dark story from my past – a story too many women have experienced, in one form or another.
I was surprised by the message, but I shouldn’t have been. It came from a well-meaning family member – someone I didn’t think read my columns.
Sometimes I forget how many people read She Buzz. I’m grateful for the reminder.
When I got the email, I went through a range of emotions. For a moment, I felt exposed. Embarrassed. Angry. Even scared to have shared something so personal – once it was published, I could never it take back.
Then I thought more about it and realized how empowered I felt when I shared the story. For years, I carried a lot of … ...Read more
By ELLEN LEWIS
I’ve been doing some thinking since Ali Cudby posted her last two articles in our She Buzz column. Her forthright foray into her past and those incidents that caused her the kind of shame that many women encounter, hit a nerve. Maybe it’s the entire dialog flooding the media today about a woman’s right to be respected. But whatever the reason, I decided to contribute a bit of personal testimony to the discussion.
From the time I was very young, I have not had a very positive relationship with my breasts. I grew up in 50’s coming to my teens in 1963. I was on the cusp of feminine change. My very early exposure was more Mad Men. By the time I first menstruated I was wearing a bra, underwires and all. I was larger than my friends. I have a strong memory of climbing … ...Read more
By ALI CUDBY
In last month’s She Buzz column I wrote about body image as an important part of empowering women.
I saw a photo of myself on a family vacation when I was 13 years old. At a point when I was trying to figure out how I felt about my curvy body.
It must have been prophetic, choosing to write about that moment in my life.
A few days after that photo was taken, I experienced something that colored my perspective as a maturing young woman – and it’s not a story I ever expected to share.
My family visited Paris, and I fell in love with the city. The fashion! The food! The architecture! I took it all in with unabashed wonder. I couldn’t wait to see the Eifel Tower. We went up the Tower, and the views were breathtaking. I wandered away from my parents to … ...Read more
By ALI CUDBY
I looked at the blurry, faded Polaroid again, and that’s all I could think…
Have you ever had one of those moments when you realize your memories were just plain wrong? Opening a box last weekend, I had one of those moment. Inside the box was a photo of me – 13 years old, on a summer vacation with my family.
I remember that trip vividly. I even remember that crazy outfit.
I remember being that kid.
But in my memory, I was overweight. Constantly encouraged to diet.
When I think back to that summer, I remember the negative messages I got about my curves.
Back then, curves weren’t the fashion. Thin was in and everything else was out.
Huffington Post 2015 Stop The Body Shaming Article
Fortunately, today’s media messages are shifting. There’s a much wider range of shapes that are being seen as … ...Read more
By ALI CUDBY
Track & Field!!!
In the past few weeks, everyone has had Olympic Fever.
The Olympics always makes some amazing television…young people in the prime of their lives, at the peak of their performance, battling it out in epic dramas featuring clear winners and losers – with a dash of nationalistic fervor for flavor.
Like many folks, I found myself getting excited about sports I barely knew existed. (Coming up next, competitive trampoline? Sign me up!)
And I do love the Olympics – BUT – I definitely didn’t love some of the media’s gender bias that came out of Rio over the past few weeks. In case you missed it, here are a few lowlights:
A man awarded the gold in a women’s swimming event
After Hungarian swimmer Katinka Hosszu’s glorious win in the 400-meter individual medley, the camera panned to her husband/coach. NBC’s Dan Hicks … ...Read more